When it comes to our family histories or our current family situations, we all start from a different place. No matter your past, you have the ability to change the future for your own family if you so desire. Maybe you don’t need to do anything different from what you grew up with, but you feel that you are failing on doing as well of a job as your own family did with you as a child. You want to create the same relationships with your children that your parents created with you. Or you want to create better relationships with your kids than what you grew up with.
Life today is different from even just one generation ago. More distractions, a busier lifestyle, and a faster pace of life make it more difficult to carve out time and space to really connect with our loved ones.
I love Nike’s “Just Do It” motto. If you want to do it, it’s simple, just do it. Well, we may not always feel capable of just doing it. Life can be more complicated than we would prefer at times. Though you may not feel that you can “just do it” in making a change in your family, you can just do something.
- Set a goal– What is your goal? The most succesful people in making positive changes in their lives are goal setters. Not only will they set a goal, they will write it down. Studies show that when we write down our goal, we are exponentially more likely to accomplish that goal than if we don’t write it down. It is important to be realistic with your goal. Set a goal worth setting, but don’t make it impossible to reach. With each goal reached, you can always set a new goal.
- Be intentional– You know you want to create moments in time that your family will treasure. So you must be intentional with your time or your time will vanish into thin air before you realize it. Make a plan for what you want to do with the time you will carve out. Figure out how you can carve out the time you want. Does your family regularly eat on the road between activities and you desire to have regular family meals? Look at your calendars and schedules, determine what can be eliminated or shifted around, make your goal the priority, and make it happen.
- Act on it– You’ve set your goal, you’ve intentionally carved out the time and made your plan to achieve your goal. Now act on it. Put it into action.
- Take one small step everyday- You can’t reach your goal overnight, and you shouldn’t try. When we are impatient in the process of reaching our destination, we often will become frustrated and throw our hands up thinking it is impossible to make the change. But if you take one small step every day, you will be amazed when you reach your goal and look back on all that was accomplished.
My oldest son just completed 2nd grade. One of his nightly assignments was to read 10 pages. He is a lover of books, so I thought this would be a breeze. Until our schedules kicked into full gear and he was exhausted from a full day of school, chores, activities, etc. However, he remained diligent to read nightly. At the end of the year the teacher handed out scrolls to each of the children to show them how many pages they read over the entire school year. Each child was blown away by the results. They couldn’t believe that reading a simple 10 pages a day, could amount to thousands of pages collectively. One student read 5,800 pages! My son read 1,302 pages and was so proud of himself. What a great lesson for them to learn so early that when we set our minds to something and act on it daily, great things can be accomplished.
One small step a day. Given time you will reach the top of that stairway, grab ahold of your goal, and realize it was worth every small step taken to get there.
Resources for goal setting:
Resources for being intentional with your family: